PART TWENTY SEVEN

PART TWENTY SEVEN

 
My family from Canada were arriving at 5am so I decided not to go back to bed after Fajr. My brothers left to fetch them while my mum and I prepared breakfast for everyone. 
 
My dad had to go to shop so he couldn’t spend the with his brother but we all took the day off to spend with them.
 
When they arrived we all sat together and had breakfast, after that my uncle wanted to go see my dadi, she was at my other uncle down the road from us. 
 
My cousins, my brothers and I chilled in the lounge chatting about everything that happened in the last few years and also about all the good holidays we had together.
 
My uncle came with my granny back to the house, we unpacked their bags and I helped my mum with lunch, after lunch we had my dads other brothers and their families over for tea and supper. 
 
It was a lot of fun catching up on old times and spending time with all my cousins, we usually don’t get much time all together if one of them is not busy then it’s because they not on speaking terms.
 
I hate family feud it just makes matters worst, since my dad was the second eldest my uncle always made my dad take decisions in family and business matter in South Africa so that created bitterness between the wives and then the children.
 
My mum always made my sister, my brothers and I maintain a good relationship at all times with the family , she always says life is too short to get angry an don’t speak over trivial matters.
 
My uncle adores Zinat so he had me call her over for supper, he couldn’t wait to see her and Sameer, Zinat and Sameer came over just before supper.
 
My uncle couldn’t get over Sameer.”Zinat this is your right match”, he said. He found that Sameer was a perfect match for Zinats big mouth, he always told her she needs to find a husband that will cut off her tongue, she talks too much. 
 
It’s so weird how my uncle and Zinat get along like best friends, they fight just so much, You would think two teenagers are fighting. 
Unexpectedly Ridhwaan and his parents came over to visit, my uncle all were shocked as no one really knew what was going on, Ridhwaan didn’t inform his parents about Saturdays incident and so they think everything is fine. Well they just came over for a friendly visit.
 
I didn’t mind but I think he should of told them, I didn’t speak to him as I told myself I’m changing myself for the better and I don’t see Ridhwaan or Asad in my life.
 
They just complicate my life and I become stressed out, I take my frustration out on everyone who comes near me and no one likes me then. I don’t like me when I’m like that.
 
After everyone left my uncle came up to me and told me we needed to speak so we went to my room.
 
“What is going in your life?”He asked.
I told him everything From the beginning, I was scared of how he would react and at the same time had a bit of hope that he would be able to solve my problem. 
 
“Bhade baapu I can’t live with so much complication so I decided not to see them both and I don’t know why Ridhwaan came here tonight.” I said. 
Bhade baapu assured me that he would take care of everything and that I should only concentrate on my work now. I felt so much of relief knowing I had someone who understood what I was going through and also who was helping my situation get better. 
 

PART TWENTY SIX

PART TWENTY SIX

 
Today we all planned meet up at Zinats place but after yesterday I was in no mood to go so I called her up and told her that I won’t be coming but my brother will still be coming. She was a bit annoyed but she understands the situation. 
 
I think from now I won’t be meeting either of them or speaking to either of them. After yesterday I realized how complicated I made my life and before all this complications I was not only a good person but also a good muslim. 
 
I have slacked in all aspects when it comes to me doing my duties as a muslim. Besides my salaah and Quraan I have slacked in the other things I would usually do, like going to the orphanage or old age home and taking food and gifts for everyone, visiting the sick in hospital.
 
Things like that I’ve stopped because I had given more importance to meeting Asad and Ridhwaan, so today I decided to be my old self and do all the things I would usually do. 
 
After breakfast I went to get some fruits and vegetables, some toys for the kiddies, some flowers for the elders and the sick and I also got food for everyone. 
 
I first went to the hospital dropped off all the goodies there and did some visiting because it was the morning visiting hours already. Then I headed to the old age home and spent a few minutes with each person just spreading my love and then I was off to the orphanage.
 
It was so nice to spend my day this way and to tell you the truth I really missed it, the kids were so loving and forgivable although I didn’t visit them for a few weeks and so were the elders. 
 
I felt so good with myself and I know I made the right decision, I have no regrets.
 
My brothers got home before me and told my mum what had happened and that I did not go to Zinat today so when I got home she stood by the door and gave me a huge hug. 
 
“I know this is a difficult time for you and I support you fully,”my mum said. 
I felt so much of relieve that I had my mum by my side, I was more confident now that I took the right decision. 
 
My dad was not too happy not because of me going to the orphanage and the rest of the places but because he says I’m delaying his dream of seeing me get married.
 
I can understand his point of view and I don’t want him to be disappointed but I can’t live a life like this I need some sanity and being myself brings me sanity. 
 
My brother went on about how much fun they had at Zinats house, apparently Ridhwaan and Asad got along so well, my brother said it was as if the tension from the day before didn’t exist, I really didn’t get it.
 
What were they trying to do, push me into a decision, I know it’s been a few weeks but it’s my life we talking about there’s no return or refund policy here. 
 
I just can’t understand what goes through the minds of these men. I’m actually not going to give it much thought, I’m afraid if I do I will end up at the place I don’t really want to be at.
 
I stayed in my room most of the evening checking my emails, I tried to get some work done before bed. I have a early morning tomorrow my family from Canada will be arriving. 

 

PART TWENTY FIVE

PART TWENTY FIVE

 
Yes my dear friend Zinat thought it would be good to invite her cousin and how could they leave Asad out so she invited him as well. I think it was the worst idea ever.
 
What an awkward situation to be in, I can just imagine both of them trying to get my attention and the other would feel left out or that I was givens one more attention then the other. 
 
We got to the resort around 8am when they just open and walked around looking for a good spot, we finally got settled and relaxed before the rest arrived. 
 
The guys were all ready to enjoy themselves, we spent hours on the water slides, in the pools, playing games and riding quad bikes.
 
We had a braai for lunch and relaxed on the grass for the rest of the day, playing board games and getting to know each other.
 
I spent most of the time with Ridhwaan and I could see it was troubling Asad, I didn’t intend to it just happened. 
 
Going back home Asad insisted I go back with him, in the morning I didn’t bring my car because Ridhwaan offered to fetch me and I thought why take all empty cars. I felt bad to leave Ridhwaan when I came with him so I refused Asads offer everytime he brought it up. 
Zinat made tea for everyone while we all packed away some of the things. While we were having tea Asad tells Ridhwaan “I see you can’t leave my chick alone.”
 
Ridhwaan was taken aback and didn’t know how to react, he just walked away. I went after him trying to explain to him that there’s nothing between Asad and I and that he shouldn’t pay attention to Asad. 
 
I felt terrible and I was so annoyed at Asad. He had to spoil our weekend. I’ll never forgive him for this. 
 
The day was not over but I was so upset that I left everything and asked Ridhwaan to take me home. On the way home Ridhwaan stopped the car on the side of the road, he got off and paced up and down for a few minutes then returned to the car.
 
“Please don’t play with my feelings, I love you and I can’t stand that there’s another guy in your life, I want to be the only one, I don’t want you to be with Asad and spend time with me, if you are his girlfriend then we shouldn’t meet again,” he said.
I was too afraid to say anything and I probably would of made no sense since I was so upset and I didn’t want to say the wrong things.
 
We got to the house I just greeted him and left I didn’t have the courage to spend another minute with him, I didn’t know if he would get angry and the most important thing is our friendship so I didn’t want to have that end because of a silly person. 

PART TWENTY FOUR

PART TWENTY FOUR

 
Ridhwaan calls me to check if we still on for Saturday, we chat a little and then he had to go his mum wanted him to go to the shops. 
 
I decided to go to bed early as I had a long day at work and had some errands after work. 
 
This morning my mum was awake early baking and sorting out things in the house, I’m glad I got work so I don’t have to stay home and help, my mum will drive me crazy. 
 
I didn’t have time for breakfast today so I thought I would get something at work to eat. My mum was hyper at the fact that she prepared breakfast and I didn’t bother to eat but she gave me this added work. 
 
Asad wanted to have lunch today but there was no way I could fit in lunch, I felt bad but I just couldn’t accept. 
 
Anyways the day went on with my head way into my work I didn’t even realize what time it was.
 
My mum called to add more things to her shopping list, I hated that I had to do the shopping, honestly I only love shopping
when I’m buying something for myself.
I got home from shopping and decided to take relaxing bath before maghrib, I really needed to relax and soothe my mind. 
 
Zinat came over to check on things for our weekend get together and also drop of some baking, she heard my uncle and his family were coming so she baked some things for us. “Why did you make so much Zinat?” My mum asked. “Oh it’s nothing Aunty Ayesha I had to bake my mother in law is coming to  stay over for a few days,” Zinat said. 
 
She and Sameer planned a romantic evening out, their first date since they got married and it was good before the inlaws came she got to go out. 
 
So your mother in law is coming, I said. Yeah don’t rub it in, as it is she doesn’t approve of Sameer and I getting married now I have to stress about how she will react to the way I do things, Zinat said in an undertone. 
 
I can’t wait to see how Zinat handle the whole mother in law situation because Zinat has never complained about anything before she is always cool and calm. She handles situations well. I’m sure she will do good. 
 
Sounds like a test that you have to take before and after marriage. I hope her mother in law is not too fussy or strict. I wonder when her mother in law will be coming.
 
My brother had his friends from work over for supper, they have this thing at work that the person who gets the biggest deal for the month has to treat everyone to a home cooked meal. The reason they choose home cooked meal is because most of them are from out of town and away from family so they hardly eat a good home cooked meal.
 
It’s nice to have them over they all so full of energy, we always have fun when they come over, they always want us to join in their games and discussions, I guess they miss their families so they like the company. 
 
I have a hectic day tomorrow so I couldn’t stay up and enjoy all the fun, we have to be at the resort early so we get a good spot. Zinat, Sameer, Ridhwaan and myself decided that we would go early and my brothers, Muneer and Asad could join us later in that morning. 
 
 

PART TWENTY THREE

PART TWENTY THREE

 
Today was a hectic day at work I had back to back meetings, sorting out all the things that got put one side while I was on leave. I hate when work piles up. 
 
My mum called me today to tell me that Asads parents want to come over on Saturday.”I have plans for saturday, plans I can’t cancel, I said.” How bad would it look if I cancelled on something I wanted everyone to do. 
 
So I told my mum tell them to come Friday evening for supper. “I will have to check with your dad and Asad, she said.” I was really not in the mood for him so I’m dreading Friday from now. 
 
After work I went shopping to get some things for our weekend trip. I got some stuff for my mum as well. Zinat also needed to do shopping so she met me to the mall. 
 
When I got home I did some work and checked my emails before supper, my cousin from Canada emailed to say they will be in South Africa on Monday morning. 
 
I was so excited will be seeing them after very long, the last I saw them was two years ago when I went to Canada. They will be in South Africa for a month only. I ran downstairs to tell my mum and dad the good news, my dad was excited he will be seeing his brother. 
 
My uncle is my dad’s eldest brother, my dad has two other brothers that stay in town but he doesn’t get so excited when he sees them as he does for his eldest brother. 
 
My grandfather passed away when my dad was 15 and his eldest brother was like his father figure so he has utmost respect for him. My granny is still alive, she lives between us and my two uncles, she prefers it that way.
 
She says she doesn’t want to be at one house too long where she starts feeling like a burden, although all of her son’s have told her she will never be a burden.
 
As usual my mum had a ton of things planned before our family arrived. She handed out tasks to all of us and gave us strict instructions to have them done before they come. 
 
They were going to stay by us like always so my mum went into panic mode, she does that when we get visitors although she has her house cleaned top to bottom everyday she finds it not clean enough when visitors come. 
 
I plan on doing all the shopping after work and going to the Aunty down our street to order all her homemade Indian snacks. My uncle loves to snack all day especially in South Africa, he says you don’t get all these things in Canada. 
 
I need to get everything done before Saturday because I can’t cancel our weekend plans, it just won’t be right. 

PART TWENTY TWO

PART TWENTY TWO

 
Asad showed a little attitude towards Ridhwaan well that’s what I felt but Ridhwaan handled it very well, I guess because he sensed that my brothers and I were not entertaining Asad. 
 
I can’t believe after knowing that we all not speaking to him, Asad still sat there. He tried to get my attention a few times but I ignored him. Zinat and Sameer came over to drop of gifts, they were giving all those who helped with the wedding thank you gifts. 
 
Zinat was surprised to see Asad there, she even asked him and he said he needed to talk to me but I’m not giving him a chance. Well after what you did I don’t think you deserve a chance, I know Uncle Muhammed since I was like born and he never took any wrong decisions for his kids.
Anyways the night ended well everyone went home, Asad also left with the rest so I was glad but he messaged me about 5 minutes after they all left saying he is on the patio and he needs to speak to me and he won’t go away until I come out and speak to him. it’s like he was black mailing me.
 
I went outside and told him to come in I can’t be seen chatting to a guy at my door step what would my neighbour’s say. So what you want, I asked. I want to give you this. 
 
It was a basket wrapped up so I couldn’t really see what was inside, I took the basket and asked him to leave. After he left I went up to my room and opened up the basket there was a CD on a bed of rose petals and a note that said ” please forgive me.”
 
I listened to the CD he made in which he apologized and explained himself, he said that he needed time to change his habit and he would love it if I gave him a list of things I wanted him to change like he knows he needs to change how he reacts everytime something happens in his life.
 
I felt sorry for him and forgave him but I don’t get when he says he needs to change his ways and I must give him a list, is he going to change himself according to how someone else wants him to. 
 
That’s just wrong, I don’t want him to change I just want him to be more mature when he has a problem not to shut everyone out and think of the world as his enemy. I messaged him to tell him how I felt. 
 
He was more relieved that I forgave him then anything else. He asked me who I decided to accept, this is not a competition who Allah (swt) has put out there for me I will accept. he didn’t have much to say.
 
Today was back to work so normal routine, had a few meetings in the morning was free for the rest of the day. I went to see if Zinat was settling in her house, she is packing all her cupboards and getting her house sorted, she didn’t want anyone but herself to do it. 
 
So Zinat thinks that I should agree to Ridhwaans proposal and not Asads, she says Asad is too much of a drama case and I would have to live with the way he goes on every time he has a problem. 
 
Ridhwaan and I made plans for the weekend with Zinat, Sameer, my siblings and his siblings. We want to go out to a day resort on Saturday and then Sunday we will chill at Zinats house and watch movies and do whatever comes to our mind. I can’t wait for the weekend. 

 

PART TWENTY ONE

PART TWENTY ONE

 
Ridhwaan and I spent a few hours each day chatting and getting to know each other although my dad allowed us two days only he agreed afterwards that Ridhwaan could come over anytime. 
 
My family are taking a liking to Ridhwaan and so was I, he isn’t a bad person, he is such a caring person and so loving. Ridhwaan and I planned to go for supper and movies with my brothers and his brother and sister.
 
We had a lot of fun, we had supper at ocean basket and watched Empire State, you just got to love Dwayne Johnson aka The Rock, we went bowling afterwards and got home just after one in the morning. I only fell asleep around 3am.
 
Today I just lazed around at home in my pj’s watching movies with my brothers, it’s been a long time since I spent my Sunday like this. We didn’t even have lunch we were stuffing our bellies with popcorn since the morning. 
 
Ridhwaans family were coming over for supper, just a casual supper nothing big or fancy, my dad invited them over so we could get to know his parents more. 
 
My dad feels before agreeing to marry a guy you must know what his family is like as you will be marrying into his family and would have to spend time with them as well. He says it makes the decision easier.
 
My brothers and I all got ready just before they arrived, I helped my mum set the table and heat up the food. They arrived just before maghrib, the men all went to the masjid while we ladies made namaaz at home. 
 
After supper the parents sat in the lounge getting to know each other, we already knew each other so we all played ps3 games in the tv room. 
 
My brother and Ridhwaan wanted dessert so I went to get for everyone as I was walking back to the tv room I heard a knock at the door. It was Asad, what do u want here? ,i asked.
 
Just then my mum came to the door, Saaj don’t be rude this is not the way I thought you to treat your guest. Come in beta, my mum said. 
 
Asad: Assalaamu-alaikum Aunty Ayesha, how are you? 
 
Aunty Ayesha : Waalaikum salaam, I’m keeping well and you beta? I heard your mum was not well how is she doing now?
 
Asad: I’m well, my mum is much better by the grace of Allah. 
 
Oh so now that his mum is well he came back to his senses. His lucky I didn’t tell my parents what he said otherwise he would not of stepped foot in this house. 
 
Asad : Maaf I seemed to have disturbed you, looks like you have guests. 
 
Me: We don’t have guest, we have family over and yes you right you have disturbed us. 
 
My mum told him to ignore me, I don’t know what’s gotten into her, my mum said.  I was frustrated at his audacity to come to my house after all the bad mouthing he did. My brothers know everything so they didn’t give him any attention, My mum introduced Asad to Ridhwaan and his siblings.